Relationship of all kind are like sand held in your hand.
Held loosely with an open hand, the sand remain where it is.
The minutes you close your hand & squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely with respect & freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively & the relationship slips away & is lost.